Tuesday, October 14, 2008

~btw a rock & a hard place~

~A few wks ago I applied for a Recruiter position that came available in Oak Ridge (same town I worked in before).

~They called today. Did a phone screen. Will likely have a phone interview on Thursday or Friday.

~If I make it to a face to face interview, I will have to prepare and present a 45 minute talk on any topic within "Staffing" WTH? Weird!!! Not looking forward to that! Did I just go back to college or something?

~Honestly, I have HUGE mixed feelings about this.

~After being home for 5 months, I REALLY REALLY don't want to go to work full time anywhere.

~Yes, we could live better w/more money but I'm really enjoying being w/Ethan and it's time I'll never get back! We are in a Play Group and we go to Mother Goose (rhymes & songs) every other week...I will really miss that.

~I know it's still early, maybe I won't even get the job offer, but if you know me, you know I worry very early.

~I guess I have to sit back and just say "if it's meant to be, it will be"


~**Dawn**~ said...

Hmmm... I've obviously never been in your shoes but here are my thoughts. Take them for the two cents they are worth.

Can you continue to at least survive & pay the bills without you working right now? (Because I think that's the question of top priority.) And if you can, is it worth it to you to squeak by to have this time with E or is squeaking by robbing you of finding joy in your time with E?

krystyn said...

Dawn-thanks for the input.

I think the situation is a combo of what you ask...we are 'surviving' right now & squeaking by but there are days when I struggle to be truly happy @ home because of the squeaking by. That's what makes it so hard. If I got this job, I know I'd miss Ethan terribly. It's just a difficult decision, but at least I don't have to make a decision quite yet.

Anonymous said...

I was going to say the exact same thing as Dawn. What are the reasons that you are not happy because of the squeaking by - are you unhappy that you can't buy fun stuff, that you can't go on trips, that you think E is suffering, or the worry that if something were to happen to O (or his job, really), you guys would be in a tough spot?

krystyn said...

The only reason I've been able to stay home so far is because I have/had a savings account. If O lost his job, yes, we would be up a creek w/o a paddle fairly quickly.

I really don't know what to do - I don't even want to do that silly presentation if I do make it to the face to face interview...but then I feel obligated to at least try and go thru the interview process.

I just wish I could find something maybe on a part time basis w/decent pay - vs the call center w/crappy pay. I guess I'm asking for too much....or I guess I should have married a doctor...like all the ladies in the playgroup did. *sigh*

Mary said...

Ok, my opinions are probably not worth even two cents....as I don't have kids (yet, knock on wood), have never not worked, and am kinda playing devils advocate here...but I work with the market in my face every single second and it is a wee bit scary..with that said:

first, no borrowing trouble...let's take each day as it comes. Gotta get thru the phone interview first, then go from there....

second, if you are offered a job, would you have to put Ethan in daycare? and would the salary cover that and make it all worthwhile? Don't feel like you have to share the salary, but I think we've all read the posts over at 2peas from ladies who did the math and figured out they weren't making much after daycare, commuting, and lunch, etc costs.

third, maybe they'll have other options - part time, work from home, etc...also, will they have good benefits? insurance, vacation, or maybe even an onsite daycare?

Keep us posted! I'm hoping something works out for you! With the economy the way it is right now, I would just be cautious about giving up a potential job opportunity. You never know what could happen. Jobs are not as plentiful as we are used to...


krystyn said...

Mary-your thoughts are along the same lines as mine...yes, E would have to go to daycare. Issue #1 - the lady who was watching him b4 recently broke her hip so she's out. O knows of another lady in Oak Ridge who could watch him, so we would have to look in to that. She is the mom of one of his co-workers and Hispanic so he'd get lots of Spanish time. Yay! At least that's better than a full-fledged daycare w/tons of kids (and germs).

The salary would be comparable to what I was making before so it would be enough to pay child care, commute etc. I don't think PT is an option on this one and I'm not sure exactly what their benefits include at this time. I imagine I'll find out as we progress. They may have an alternative work schedule (4 10's) not sure though & I forgot to ask.

I'm with you on the fact that I will likely feel forced to take it if I am made the offer and while I should be thankful if that happens, I know right now that I'll be overcome with sadness for a while not being able to be with E.

Hence btw a rock and a hard place. I don't really feel like I have much choice here.

We'll see what happens. They didn't call today to schedule the phone interview and if they don't call Thurs then maybe he was BS-ing me and I didn't make the first cut...we'll see.

Stacy said...

WOW! That is a rock & a hard place. And while I have kids, I really don't feel qualified to answer this question because I haven't been faced with this dilemmma myself. I quit my Civil Service job (flushed a good potential retirement right down the toilet- LOL) to stay home in1998 & have been home ever since. We choose this route because Keith was on actie duty & was deployed a TON. With my job, taking time off was REALLY difficult so thus I became a SAHM.

Fast forward to the present & I am working on my Masters w/ the intent to go back into the work force (most likely in the 2010-11 school year) & frankly I even get freaked out thinking about that. By that time my kids will be in the 3rd & 7th grades.......yeah, I am a bit neurotic.

Okay...enough of MY whining....I don't know what to tell you but I think the other ladies make some fabulous points. I guess all I can say is only you know what your whole situation is & where that fine line of 'balance' lie for you. But I wish you the best of luck in this :)