Thursday, March 05, 2009

~biological father AKA sperm donor~

~I hardly know my biological father. For the most part I'm ok with that.

~He and my mom divorced when I was 2 yrs old. I saw him when I was 4 yrs old and then not again 'til I was 16 yrs old. By then he had moved to Florida, remarried, had a 2 yr old and another baby on the way.

~When I was 16 I flew to FL and spent Thanksgiving with him and his family. To say it was awkward would be an understatement. According to my mom, he turned 40 that year and was having his "mid-life" crisis. He had written her a letter and all of a sudden wanted to get to know me. Ha!! He didn't even take the days off of work when I was there. Guess he didn't want to get to know me THAT well.

~We stayed in touch for the next couple years until he traveled to Michigan and didn't have time to see me. I wrote him a nasty letter, he called and said he was not @ fault. I was 18, he was 42, who should have been more accountable? That is the last time I have spoken with him.

~A number of years later, we started emailing, I'm not even sure how I got his email address, maybe from my mom. Anyway, his email correspondence is always as if I'm a former co-worker of his or something - it's really strange. He signs all his emails "FM" - his initials.

~Anyway, all this to say that when E first arrived, there was an increase in email communication, but it is virtually non-existent at this point. E received a Christmas gift and Birthday gift from him, but when I send an email to thank him, I get no response. I then thought the email wasn't working, even though I didn't get a failure message, so I followed up with a written thank you note. Still never heard from him. In the birthday Thank You note, I included a picture of E with cake & frosting all over him, still no note back. My last ditch effort was sending him a link to E's 1 year professional pictures so he could see them...take a guess...still haven't heard from him.

~I often over-analyze things, which is clearly what I'm doing here...trying to figure out why he sends things to E, but cannot respond via email to anything anymore.

~Ugh! Whatever!!

1 comment:

freebird said...

In his lame ol' way he's trying. That doesn't excuse him, but more than I can say for my stupid ex. He has not asked about Andrew at all. It's been months, almost a year.

I will never understand how men can walk away from their own children --- and THAT's the difference between men and women.