Sunday, November 25, 2007

~if you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all~

I haven't posted in a while, hence the title...I'm sure everyone is sick of reading my negative and crappy-life posts and so I have not posted lately to spare you from reading a bunch of nothing. Basically, I have nothing 'good' to report right now so it's best if I don't say (or post) anything at all. Since all this junk is dominating my life, I'm surrounded by comments such as 'it'll get better' or 'you'll be fine' or 'other people have it worse than you' or 'everything happens for a reason' etc. Thanks to my handy-dandy Master's Counseling classes, have learned that those are all EMPTY responses that ultimately INVALIDATE a person's feelings and are not helpful in making someone feel better and so I will refrain from posting any job or life news at this time...

And so, in honor of the above are '50' questions that I swiped from Dawn's blog...except, there aren't really 50 because some people deleted some along the way...

1. What bill do you hate paying the most?
House payment - it's the biggest, it hurts the most.

2. Where was the last place you had a romantic dinner?
Ha - can't remember that.

4. If you could go back and change one thing what would it be ?
Oh. boy. (I'm keeping this response as it's what Dawn used and if I really answered this question, this would be the World's Longest Blog Post EVER!)

5. Name of your first grade teacher?
Cannot remember...WAY TOO LONG AGO.

8. How many colleges have you attended? 4

9. Why did you choose the shirt that you have on right now?
Because it was time for bed and I put on my pajamas...too bad I cannot sleep and have to be up in 3.5 hrs to go to work.

11. If you could move anywhere and take someone with you where would it be?
A quiet & remote beach. I'd take Milo & Hula ONLY!

12. First thought when the alarm went off this morning?
"Oh crap, it's 3:45am already?"

13. Last thought before going to sleep last night?
"it's 8:30pm and I must go to bed NOW because I have to be up at 3:45am"

14. Do you miss being a child?
Oh do I ever!!! My childhood was WAY better than my adult life has been.

16. What errand/chore do you despise?
errand: grocery shopping. chore: cleaning the bathrooms

17. If you didn't have to work, would you volunteer?
if i could find the right volunteer position. or I would work for fun. (keeping Dawn's answer here too).

18. Get up early or sleep in?
depends on day of the week

19. What is your favorite cartoon character?
I don't think I have one anymore.

20. Favorite thing to do at night with a girl/guy?
depends on who the guy is - LOL

21. Have you found real love yet? pleading the 5th

22. When did you first start feeling old? 2 yrs ago

25. What do you get every time you go into Wal-Mart?

26. Beach or lake?

27. Do you think marriage is an outdated ritual?
In terms of what it was intended to be, probably so. Rare is the couple that truly works and works to hang on to a struggling's so easy to 'just get out' nowadays.

28. Do you own property?
I wouldn't say 'own', but I do have a mortgage and my house sits on land, so I think technically the answer would be 'yes' - but since I've only made 9 payments, I probably only own 1-2 blades of grass.

29. Favorite Guilty pleasure?
Travel....just about anywhere.

30. Favorite movie you wouldn't want anyone to find out about?
no idea

31. What's your drink?
Diet Sunkist

34. Who from high school would you like to run in to?
No one

38. Worst relationship mistake that you wish you could take back?
Giving a 2nd chance to people that I shouldn't have.

40. What famous person would you like to have dinner with?
how long have you been reading this blog? you should know the answer to this is: Robin Williams

41. Indoors or Outdoors?
Indoors if it's cold outside. Outside if it's 75 or higher.

42. Have you ever crashed your vehicle?
I've been in my share of car accidents

44. Last book you read?
Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

46. Strangest place you have ever brushed your teeth?
~I dunno~

48. Do you go to church?
Not very often these days

49. At this point in your life would you rather start a new career or a new relationship? Ha...great timing...a new career would be nice!

50. How old are you...36


Mary said...

hi!! Fun post. I owe a major catch-up blog entry, but after that I may have to steal your 50 questions. "other people have it worse than you" has to be my all-time non-favorite response. I have faith that you'll get thru all this, but it still sucks right this minute.

Anonymous said...

all those responses are what well-meaning people say when they don't what else to say, and it isn't until it's said TO YOU that you realize how crappy a response they are. although sometimes, it's just what annoying people say when what they really mean is "quit your whining." and i didn't mean the first line to invalidate your hatred of them! that was more to make the second point of my statement.

krystyn said...

I'm sure people mean well when they say those things, that's not was I was implying...all I'm saying is that they really don't feel that good.

Also, I don't hate the people or the responses, again, I'm just tired of hearing's not like I'm going around 24/7 saying how crappy everything is right now, but people ask "any news?" or "how's it going?" so now I just say that all is fine.

So I'm a liar now - shoot me.

Oh and there's a lot more "going on" than is EVER posted here...

Chele76 said...

oh... I might have a good suggestion for your grocery shopping.... Do you have peapod there? Check out their website I don't gorcery shop any more AND I spend WAY less per month because I grocery shop "smarter" Check it out, it might work for you.

krystyn said...

Chele-just checked out the Peapod thing...they aren't delivering to this area yet...maybe someday.

Thanks for the tip though. :-)

Anonymous said...

I wasn't implying that you thought those people weren't well-meaning! See, this is why writing sometimes sucks. You spend way too much time trying to explain what you DON'T mean by something.

krystyn said...

Yes, at times writing is a lot more challenging to get across the message one is trying to send.

I understand. :-)

~**Dawn**~ said...

11. I am thinking you would also be taking Ethan, kinda by default. =P

And yeah, people mean well (usually) but it's like... ugh... just let me feel what I'm feeling for the moment. I'll get to the sunny side of the street when I'm darn good & ready to, and yes I know there are people worse off than me, but that doesn't make *my* life more fun. Sometimes you just have to feel the bad stuff if you're ever going to plow through it, and all anyone can really say is "That sucks, I'm sorry you're going through it, but it's perfectly fine to not be perfectly happy all the time." Because sometimes there is no "right thing" to say & there isn't something anyone can do. Just listen & don't make me feel like I'm committing a cardinal sin by not being bright & freaking shiny right now.

krystyn said...

What I'm thankful for today: Dawn. Who seems to be the only person who understands me and the fact that it's OK TO FEEL CRUMMY and not be "bright & freaking shiny" all the time.

Anonymous said...

No, I do too! Dawn's right, sometimes the only that'll make you feel better is wallowing.

There was an episode of Ally McBeal once where someone asked her what made her problems more important than anybody else's, and she said, "Because they're mine."

Janeen Jordan said...

I remember when we were going through infertility and loss - I started to hate any comment made to me during that time. No matter how well meaning it all was, it was annoying. You are going to go through crap, that is just life - thankfully this is what blogging does for me - gives me an outlet - you don't like it, don't read it, it's my life. ya know? So, don't feel like you have to avoid your bad days and feelings - it's YO blog honey. Let it all hang out! :O)

~**Dawn**~ said...

I love Amy's quote from Ally McBeal. I never watched it, but sometimes that feels so very true.

Nichole said...

I don't have anything to add really, except to let you know that if you were here, I'd give you a giant hug.